In this series of blogs, I share techniques and examples of Tarot Readings to help you develop as a reader. I also share channelings I do to help you align more easily to a purposeful life.

Queen of Wands: oh crap, feminine leadership

Over the last couple of months, I’ve drawn the Queen of Wands about ten times. After similar experiences in the past, I know Soul has big lessons in store when it keeps reminding me about a lesson in feminine leadership I’m learning by showing one card over and over. It’s as if Soul tells me: “Hey, hello! I’m trying to catch your attention! Hello!!” So I did an automatic writing session to find out what she was trying to tell me.

Oh crap, leadership

When you look up the Queen of Wands in my book Tarot Guide for Beginners, the General Theme: Feminine Leadership, is the first thing you see.

Oh crap.

When I asked my husband what the thing was with leadership for me, he didn’t have to think long. “Confrontation,” he said. “You’re afraid of confronting people.” #micdrop. I instantly understood what he meant.

I’ve struggled with this for years. It resulted in trying to be friendly when I was fed up, and sometimes the frustration seeped through my words. Passive aggressive, anyone?

My business leadership is no problem. But in my part-time jobs, I’ve struggled a lot. In my current position, where I’m almost a year, I also noticed the same thing happening. Again. It frustrated me, and I wondered if I was in the right place. But this week, I found out why. It was about telling myself I don’t know anything about technical stuff. In reality, I’m far from technically skilled, and I often have no clue what these people are talking about.

Studying the Queen of Wands and my Akashic Record helped me.

Queen of Wands feminine leadership

Queen of Wands from the Buckland Romani Tarot (no longer available)

I don’t have to know it.

I realized that I would never be able to catch on to the level of knowledge of these people. And you know… I don’t have to. They are experts in their field, and I am an expert in mine. That’s why they hired me.

You’re not here to think.

Over the last few weeks, leadership has been very present in my conversation with other women. As most of them are about the same age, we’ve all started our careers somewhere in the eighties, and most of them had similar experiences as I have.

Back then, 99% of leadership positions were filled by men. From what I saw, women had a distinctly supporting role. They were secretaries or assistants. The thought of supporting a woman taking on a man’s job was almost unheard of, and you had to be very strong to do it anyway. I was a management assistant. I listened to what happened around me and read what they gave me to type. At some point, I knew when certain things were against policy, so I would remark on it when I gave them their work back. My inner Queen of Wands couldn’t keep quiet.

It resulted in confrontations in the yearly assessment where my opinion, even how carefully chosen, wasn’t appreciated, and I got low marks because of it (and no raises either). One of my male co-workers told me at some point: “You’re not here to think; you’re here to type.”

The idea that my opinion doesn’t count lead me for a long time. But you know, it happened around 1989 or 1990! That’s 32 years. Time to let that crap go!

Feminine leadership

I researched feminine leadership and found that it was something different than women in leadership. I also studied my Akashic Record and found more references to leadership than I thought.

Oh crap.

I found in my record that I am “in the trenches” of promoting consciousness and change on a soul level. I acknowledged that in everything I do. My jobs and businesses have been and still are all about bringing change and improvement. The same thing with my book and blogs. It’s what I do in this world. I guess I’m doing my Akashic Record even more than I thought!

After my not-so-successful management assistant job, I got an opportunity in quality assurance, and I still do that. Even though I’ve had other jobs in between, they all focused on creating change. If I can’t improve anything, there’s no fun for me to do that job.

One thing I stumbled over in the description of what they call a Blueprint Deliverer (the official title for a change-maker) was that I need to be aware of people who are not open to change. It was compared with the saying leading a dead horse to water, which is a challenge (quite impossible, actually).

I’ve tried to lead many dead horses to water in the past, but slowly I’m starting to learn to recognize how dead horses “smell,” and boy, oh boy, it is bringing me so much freedom in what I teach in my metaphysical practice.

A beginning and an end to feminine leadership

What I am learning and what the Queen of Wands is all about is knowing everyone has freedom of choice. I do, but the people I work with do as well. In this case, freedom means respecting everyone’s freedom of choice.

When I advise making specific changes in work processes or implementing compliance with certain laws, it is their freedom to put it aside if they feel it’s better to make a different decision. I will do my best to convince them, but ultimately, I’m not responsible for the decision.

This week I embraced the Queen of Wands and gave a bunch of advice from her energy. I was friendly and decisive and explained possible consequences. I must say that I expected a discussion (because there had been before), but to my surprise, they accepted the advice. I still have to see what they “bake” of it, but I think I clarified the consequences.

Leave responsibilities where they belong.

Feminine leadership is not only leaving responsibility where it belongs; it also means that I communicate in unambiguous words. Maybe I’ve learned to recognize those dead horses before they’re dead! In another situation, I advised revitalizing a project put on hold to ensure another risk in the organization would be solved over the next few years. Another positive reply. 😯

It’s like the online videos: “I was years old when I understood this hack.” I used to be insecure about what I did, but I’m starting to see how to do this. This week was essential in this change.

Feminine leadership is not about being afraid of confrontation. It’s about knowing your boundaries, a bunch of clear communication, and leaving the ultimate responsibility for the decision where it belongs. It becomes frustrating when I make myself responsible for someone else’s decisions. The freedom…

For the first time in my career, I don’t feel frustrated about my job. It’s because I am free to choose as well. Instead of becoming frustrated, I have a choice to be a true change-maker based on my leadership skills with courage, a big heart, and a healthy ambition (see Tarot Guide for Beginners, page 181.)

 

Jolanda Bolt

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The Power of an Intentional Tarot Session

When you interpret tarot cards, you rely heavily on your subconscious. This means that we don’t really understand how reading cards works. Of course, there’s the image and the traditional meaning that you could look up in a book. But that’s not what we want.

It is more interesting to find out what happens inside your mind when it registers the image. It is still a mystery to me. The interpretation is affected by your past experiences, beliefs, culture, values, and stories. These aspects have sunk into the background of your mind and do their work without you knowing it. As a result, you receive a thought or a feeling that you can interpret more consciously.

Embrace Your Limitations

I am always amazed at how many learning opportunities there are in my sessions. These opportunities arise because I let you interpret the cards while working with me. While many people may want a clear-cut answer from me as a reader about what they should do, I want to pick your brains to coach you so you know what to do. You already have the experiences, beliefs, cultural backgrounds, values, and stories – that’s quite enough. You don’t need mine to add to that. What I need to mentor you is to hear your interpretation of the cards. After dozens of readings done this way, I know you have them – even when you have never read a tarot card in your life. This way, I can help you make the right decisions within these limitations and embrace them fully without hesitation.

No matter what question you bring to the session, don’t just pick a question haphazardly and hope for the best. I want to know your intention for the next six months. When you do that, we both know you’re not coming for fun – you want to grow and develop. That’s my kind of person!

The Question Behind The Question

There is always meaning in a question. For instance, you just started dating and met someone nice, and you go to a reader with the question: “Is X a right match for me?” When I get a request like that, I wonder: Why would they come to me with this question? They meet someone new and have doubts about them; otherwise, you wouldn’t request a session. Is it a problem with interpreting intuition, or are you struggling with fear? Where does the question come from?

If I would grab my deck of cards without thinking about this essential difference, you might not get the reading you’d need. So before I’d start the reading, I would have a couple of questions for you, like:

  • Could you please tell me more about X?
  • How did you meet them?
  • What are your experiences with them?
  • Do you feel free to be yourself when you are with them?
  • What do they remind you of?
  • What are your previous experiences with other people?
  • What do you hope?
  • What do you fear?

Based on your answers and the intention you already sent me, I may change the original question into a more suitable one that could give you much more insight into what is happening inside.

intentional tarot session

What Do You Need?

Throwing some cards on the table and telling you if X is a match would not help you. We need direction in the reading. Only then can we work on the reading and coaching together. It is sometimes not what my clients expect from our session, but they are almost always relieved to talk about what keeps them awake at night.

The great thing is that I know the cards will be bang on once we define the proper focus for our session. The more focus we bring into the session, the more specific the guidance will be. The good thing is that defining the right question is part of the coaching because most clients are not aware that they have different questions than they think. Once we start defining, there’s almost always a more profound question below the surface.

Resisting The Real Question

What I sometimes notice is that clients have a bit of resistance to the right question. I understand that because they came into the session to ask if X is a good match, and suddenly they have to talk about their deepest fears of repeating the same mistakes they once made with a former partner. That’s no fun! I agree, but it is helpful!

I once had a client who gave me two pieces of feedback three weeks apart. The first showed a  slightly disappointed person who had gotten the reading she needed but not what she wanted. I contacted her, and we talked for a bit, but she didn’t want a new session to clear it up, so I had to let it go.

A few weeks later, she sent me a new email, where she apologized for her previous email and explained how she now saw that her new partner triggered a fear based on an old failed relationship. The new partner was very loving, and she could not believe he was the real deal, so he must be untruthful. Having to talk about her fears felt big and overwhelming, although she told me that I did it every so gently. I was glad she let me know that she had changed her experience into a much more positive one because even for me, these pieces of feedback can be challenging (need I say perfectionism?).

Close your eyes and see

When we work on interpreting the cards, we process the imagery. When the client does that, I can see it in their eyes. They either close their eyes to see the images in their mind’s eye or look up and away from me. It is a perfect way to connect with their inner wisdom.

At the same time, your brains go through their archive of possible meaning. This doesn’t mean that you now suddenly come up with the perfect interpretation of the card. I believe that at that moment, you subconsciously connect to your Akashic Record (even if you do not even know you have one) and go through every past, present, and even future experience the images remind you of.

I can almost imagine you wondering how you can remember future things. Isn’t that a contradiction? When you look at it from our experience in the regular timeline we have here in this incarnation, but in the Akashic Records, there is no perception of time. There is only information that is available at present. Since there is no past and no future in the records, there is only now, making it possible for us to know about it.

You find meaning in the card’s image with all the information available. If you always thought reading tarot cards or the Akashic Record was complex, then no, it’s not. You only need to know how to bypass your weird brain that always gets in the way. You also must step away from the noise around us all the time. Some discipline is needed to spend more time with yourself, but as a budding reader, that may be one of your objectives.

Get My Book to Learn How to Read the Cards

I have written a beautiful book on the process called Tarot Guide for Beginners. It teaches you to associate freely with the imagery on the card and helps you to move freely in and out of your source of wisdom. Technically, you don’t need me for that. If this puts me out of work in this field, I’m happy with that 😊.

If you’d still rather have a session with me, I am happy to help you. Life could be so much easier if you only knew your direction. Please let me know whether it is a super personal or a business question you want guidance on. You can request your session here. If you’d instead work with me for a more extended period, check out the Divine Soul Coaching Program information.

We discuss the topic you bring to our sessions, guided by the cards I draw for you. I will help you find your North Star and get back into the game. Don’t expect I will be the only one who does the talking. I am looking for the interaction with and awakening of your inner guidance. It has a much longer ‘shelf life’ than a general card reading you can get everywhere.

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Tarot Prediction Analysis for my Book & Business

Writing a prediction analysis with divinatory tools about how my new book Tarot Guide for Beginners will be doing in its first year of release is dangerous, right? I totally agree because what if I’m wrong? But after successfully doing a prediction analysis for the winner of the 2020 USA elections, I want to try again. Beginners’ luck, 50/50 change; I still don’t believe everything I read in the cards.

This time, I combined all modalities I’ve dabbled in to predict the book’s success and how it will affect my life.

A prediction  analysis is only words and numbers

I will use numerology techniques to calculate various tarot cards, and I will go into my Akashic Record to see how they relate.

Upfront, I want to emphasize that this prediction analysis is just for fun. I’m as proud I can be already. Finishing a book isn’t a small thing, especially when it is a book close to your heart, as the preceding Dutch version has always been.

I am also very aware that when a card comes up that “predicts” mind-blowing success, it doesn’t dismiss me from taking responsibility for making it so. Also, if a sucky card comes up, I’ll dismiss it 😊. We’re only talking about probabilities and possibilities here.

The difference between probability and possibility

When I talk about success for my book in this prediction analysis and how it will affect me, it is essential to distinguish between probability and possibility. These terms come from my work in the Akashic Records, where I often work with outcomes. Most people struggle to understand the difference between them, though.

Probability means an outcome already has a fair chance of occurring as circumstances stand right now, given your current path and past choices. It means that you can’t get a 100% probability if you’re cold to the journey and haven’t decided on a specific outcome before. Since I’m pretty cold onto this journey, I don’t expect a 100% probability of only having written a manuscript. My audience needs to be built, and more people still need to hear about what I’m up to. Also, people need to learn more about my other offerings and what is coming up in that area.

Possibility means that an outcome CAN conceivably occur but most likely needs an amount of adjustment to your path and stepping away from your past choices. This means that you need to be willing to take different actions toward the desired outcome because, let’s face it, the Universe isn’t a genie in a bottle. If you don’t do anything, the Universe will not either.

So I set out to create a table of the probability and possibility of total earnings a year after the release (August 2022 to July 2023). While working on it, I thought about my willingness to make things possible. Since I work part-time and don’t intend to give that up, my time is limited. Also, think about doctor’s appointments, extra work hours, wellness and massage, seeing friends, workouts, sleeping, eating, etc. Thinking and planning as if I always have 24 hours per week available sets me up for failure. I will forever feel behind and, in the end, give up. I’ve been there. Also, if I have to put everything aside to improve the possibility of earning big bucks, I may lose the fun in this project.

What I found in my Akashic Record

To get some answers, I went into my Akashic Record and dowsed some total earnings in 12 months that the book and offers can generate. Notice that the numbers below are not percentages but numbers on a scale from 0 to 100:

Total Earnings in 12 months

 Probability Possibility Joy score

< $ 10,000

 87 100

38

$ 15,000

 79 96 50

$ 20,000

 74 93 55

$ 25,000

 72 89

100
$ 30,000 68 84

100
$ 40,000 60 46

72
$ 50,000 45 33

61

*Interested in this sort of information? Find out more about Akashic Records Business Coaching

What these scores tell me

The scores show that the sweet spot of what is probable, possible, and fun lies somewhere around $ 30,000 for me. As I am not financially dependent on this, it is already a hoot to have such an amount of money as earnings in a year – my inner smile just got much bigger!

The table in this prediction analysis also shows that while I consciously feel I have no expectations for the book, apparently, I have subconscious expectations that it “should” be more than $ 20,000; otherwise, it is no “fun.” See how the fun score almost doubles above that? My current beliefs limit me to somewhere between $ 30,000 and $ 40,000. Above $ 40,000 of earnings, things seem to be less possible since the possibility percentage quickly diminishes above that. I found the answer for that in my Akashic Record: it’s because of limiting beliefs. Good to know this!

Let’s move on to the numerical calculations for myself and the book.

Tarot Prediction Analysis for my Book & Business

Calculating my personal year card

Using the same technique as I did in the US election blog, let’s look at several calculations for this current prediction analysis.

Let’s start with my personal year card. The calculation for the personal year card is as follows: I celebrate my birthday on April 12.

12 + 4 + 2022 = 2038 = 13 = 4

Death (13) and Emperor (4)

Looking at the thirteenth Major Arcana card, we see the Death card. This card doesn’t scare me at all; I celebrate it! It does not predict an actual death but a transformation. This is what I write about Death in Tarot Guide for Beginners:

General Theme Death:

Self-induced transition

Keyword Phrases:

Being fired, change of identity, changing old habits, changing status, death and rebirth, disposing of what is not helpful, elimination, end of a chapter, end of a relationship, focus on the essentials, leaving home, moving house, new beginning, resigning, self-induced transition, separation, significant changes, transformation, transition into a next phase

And this is what I wrote about The Emperor in my book:

General Theme Emperor:

Order

Keyword Phrases:

Authority, bound creativity, career, commander, confidence, control, coordination, directive, discipline, government, guide, leadership, logic, masculinity, mission, order, organization, power, promotion, protector, rational, rules, self-assured, self-control, status, strength, structure, systematic, tying up loose ends, vision, wisdom

It’s quite the process I’m going through this year, and I can already acknowledge how most of these keyword phrases are true for me. This project is more than just writing a book and rebuilding a business. I made an essential change in how I approached my business. I let go of the frustration that my business didn’t do what I wanted it to do, and I surrendered to fun and joy. At the same time, learning from my Manifesting Blueprint, I needed to work with goals (which I wasn’t doing anymore because #faileverytime). I approached the project with more structure and control than I was used to and was surprised to see how it improved my confidence.

I felt insecure and anxious about marketing anything I made in the past, so I wasn’t doing it (except for some pathetic whispers now and then). Over the last few months, I have learned to become more vocal about what is happening. Because of the structured approach, I was able to pull the release date from October to August.

It is beautiful to see both cards reflected in what I am experiencing now. It always surprises me how numerology and tarot can be used together.

Calculating the card for Tarot Guide for Beginners

Tarot Guide for Beginners will release on August 11, 2022. That date serves as a birthday, which makes it easy to calculate its birth card, and every year after that, I can calculate a year card for the book. In the first year, the birth card is also the year card.

August 11, 2022: 8 + 11 + 2022 = 2041 = 7

This is what I write about the Chariot (7) in Tarot Guide for Beginners:

General Theme for Chariot (7)

Progress

Keyword Phrases:

Ambition, assertiveness, authority, being at the helm, being in control, clear goals, competition, concentration, confidence, controlling your emotions, courage, efficiency, initiative, progress by balancing opposing forces, progress over perfection, self-centered, showing leadership, skills, steering in the right direction, success, travel, victory

Well, hello! This feels like quite the journey that I will experience with this book. Of course, it is dependent on how much action I am willing to take. Still, looking at the energy this book releases in my life, I won’t have to worry about willingness—words like initiative, setting clear goals, and confidence. But let’s not skim over balancing opposing forces, progress over perfection, and success.

This book feels like a love baby and a practice run simultaneously. I am learning so much about taking action, organizing my work methods, and showing the world what I’m making that I’m super happy that I’m back in my old niche where I once started. It’s funny how one sometimes has to go on a long journey to end up where you started with the same book (although translated and improved) to take it from there. Let’s say I learned a lot about alignment and flow 😊

How the book will affect me

Lastly, let’s look at the energies on the day Tarot Guide for Beginners releases.

For this I take the day and month I was born and add them to the release day:

12 + 4 + 11 + 8 + 2022 = 2057 = 14

This is what I write about Temperance (14) in my book:

General Theme for Temperance (14):

Moderation

Keyword Phrases:

Acknowledge all parties concerned, balancing, compromise, discretion, do not overdo it, fruitful combination, getting well, good health, harmony, healing, love, making things easier, middle ground, mixing, moderation, mood-disorders, morality, patience, peace, recovering, self-control, synthesis, tolerance.

It’s funny how you sometimes blank out when you see a specific card. That is what happened when I saw Temperance. As an Aries, I always find this card a bit of nothing. Pouring water from one cup into the other seems so useless. Balancing between the watery emotions and the sturdy earth… yeah. Right.

Egoic resistance

But then I noticed the egoic resistance inside. This is what it is all about. On Release Day, the project ends, but that is not where the journey ends. On the contrary, it is where a new cycle starts! And the energy of Temperance is what I need to bring along!

Slowly the story around this card starts to form in my head. I often look at egoic resistance as parts work, also known as IFS (Internal Family Systems), that I need to do. I was introduced to this form of work years ago, where you work with parts like your inner child, the saboteur, the worker, the inner critic, etc.

Interestingly, this modality pops up again while looking at this card. I have always struggled with parts of me that have their reasons for choosing misalignment. Examples are working extremely hard, combined with a part that is very critical of the outcome, and then feeling hurt when you can’t fulfill those expectations: the worker, the inner critic, and the inner child.

Temperance suggests keeping it easy and doing things in moderation. I’m only at the start of a new journey, so give yourself time to release some old stories that got stuck in your mind about failing, expectations, and stuff from how I was raised. Do I need to say: high expectations?

Calm down, keep it fun, and don’t overdo it. Temperance tells me how to do it and prevent falling into the same trap repeatedly.

Closing

This is how far I can take this prediction analysis for Tarot Guide for Beginners. I’ve been looking at other books and their writers. Knowing their businesses and how long they’ve been active online, I know my book will not beat them right away. But thinking about hitting around $ 30,000 in the first year might hold a prediction. And think about this: how much fun would it be to strike Guided Tarot off its #1 spot. If only for a short while? Again: it would be a hoot!

The good thing with tarot books is that they don’t go out of fashion. I have and still use a book by Rachel Pollack written in 1980. She updated and republished it in 2019, and it still hits the top 10! This means I have all the time to build the name of this book and other books.

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Three important lessons about tarot reading

In 2004, I wrote my first tarot book. It got great reviews, but you have probably never noticed it because it was a Dutch book, and you may not be fluent in it 😉. Thousands of people still learn about tarot with my book.

The way I teach tarot is not the only way. I love other people’s techniques because I learn a lot about them. But I have three pet peeves that I want to discuss with beginning and advanced tarot readers. Read more

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Limiting beliefs: how to counter inner chatter

Over the last few years, I have noticed how my inner conversation, a.k.a. my limiting beliefs, has stolen the show – MY show. It played a role in my old business, it played a role in the eating disorder, and it played a role in my author’s journey.

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Overcoming Obstacles In the Akashics

Overcoming obstacles in my author’s journey has become the most significant goal this year. I thought I only had to hit the Publish button, but it turned out to be so much more.

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Conversation With My Future Self (a Tarot Reading)

I was scrolling through my collection of tarot spreads on my Pinterest Boards when I found a spread for a conversation with my Future Self. You can find it in the board Spreads Future in the Tarot & Oracle Spreads board. You can find over eight hundred examples there.
I can’t give credit for this spread because Pinterest blocked the source. Luckily they don’t block the image because I did a great reading with it. It got up close and personal. Read more

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Let’s cut the woo-woo around tarot

As a long-time reader, I sometimes take the theories around the cards for granted. I no longer question my frame of mind, at least not like I used to do when I just began reading cards. That is why I want to talk to you about the woo-woo I often see around the tarot. Read more

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Can I Change A Prediction By Tarot Cards?

Now and then, I answer a tarot question. This time, it is something that worries my clients: “Can I change a prediction by tarot cards?”

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Being an author makes me feel awkward (a reading)

As a six-year-old, I did not feel awkward about writing books. It was at this age that I wrote my first book. I had just learned to write and read. It took me an afternoon of my tongue between my lips to come up with a couple of stapled-together folded pages filled with drawings and awkwardly written words. I must have been a bit forward because I also learned to speak English. It introduced me to a wide array of more interesting books than I found in the library. Read more

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