I do not know what you think

I don't know

This week I was hit by the brick wall I often place in front of myself, and it was a humbling and painful moment. But as always with painful stuff; it is cause to do some thinking and that is always healthy.

Yes, even a mentor is a sort of human… 😉

I had written a long document for my business and put that up for review. Let me explain that I find it hard to accept feedback because one of my talents is to change it into a critique. Ouch!

Save it for next week

When the feedback arrived, it was the end of the week. I was tired, and I should have known better. Save it until next week, but I didn’t. All feedback changed into critique as if by magic. Just as I often do. Going through the emotions and feelings around what happened, I went deeper to find out why I felt so bad about a bit of feedback. I mean, nobody has ever died from it.

So I wrote a long-ass piece in my journal in which I poured out all my thoughts and feelings, and I came to the conclusion that I had to make a decision.

Life is all about tweak and retweak. And if there is one thing that I’ve learned it is that if you find out that you made a choice that isn’t “all that”, you can change it right away again. No matter what anyone says, no matter if some people run off stamping their feet.

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I decide where I go

And that’s how it works in my business. Heck, I am the CEO, and I can decide where “we” go with this one-woman show! Isn’t that quite what I stumbled over when I still had a job? I kinda always knew it better than the CEO which direction the company needed to go. Uh-huh, yeah that’s the kind of girl I am.

Anyhow… now that I am the CEO of my own biz, I also have to make sure that all the employees, aka me, are happy with their job. Suddenly you find out that being the CEO isn’t all that easy. Sometimes I have to say: I do not know if I’ve made the right decision.

Was it just about that feedback? Well not really, it was about the choice I had made earlier. Don’t worry that I’ll make a big move again as I did a few months ago. But leaving the weight loss part behind in my business wasn’t the smartest thing to do. So, there you have it: I’m going to talk about weight loss in relation to mindset again.

Is that it?

Yeah, that’s it.

I don't know what you think

I do not know what you think

I just reread my journal about what I have imagined what you’re thinking of me right now. It wasn’t nice. When a client struggles with this, I often ask: and how sure are you of what they think? And they very often have to admit that they don’t know. If you ask me the same question now, I’d have to answer: “I do not know what they think, there is probably not a lot of reality in what I imagine”. It always makes me remember a quote by Dr. Phil (love him or hate him, he’s good for a quote or two):

“My father used to say, “You would worry less about what people think if you knew how little they did”.
-Dr. Phil McGraw

Small stuff

So this whole “thing” had to do with what you would think of me if I would start talking about weight loss and mindset again…. And I bet some of you will be happy and some of you will throw their arms in the air and sigh: “I do not know where that woman is going anymore” and they will leave my website or unsubscribe from my list. Well, that’s life. Can’t please everybody!

I now see how small the shit is what I worry about. Really… was that really it? Yeah, that’s what I spent a whole weekend chewing on and feeling bad about; that I do not know what you think.

I’m only human. How about you?

Let me know what you think in the comments 😉 I hope I can handle it 🙂

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2 replies
  1. Nenke Jongkind
    Nenke Jongkind says:

    I’m not sure if I was clear that you were not going to talk about it any more. I did understand that you wanted to expand your reach into life coaching with a wider spectrum.

    Yesterday I achieved 50 lb. weight loss from my heaviest ever weight 243 (110.6 kg) to 192 (87.4 kg) pounds. I had come down to 230 lb. quite soon just to gime some distance from the “magic” number of 250. I remember passing 150, size 16, 175, size 18, 200, having to shop in stores for larger women, up to size 26 and 243. Somehow, something of my mother’s genetic disposition kicked into place and I stopped going up.

    It began with not getting closer to 250. I got down to 220 (100 kg). Then I went both slightly up and slightly down. Then they laparoscopically removed a 6 kg ovarian cyst. That felt so good, I wanted more. I started with Dr. Poon. It works for me.

    In my mind you are a part of my wise mentor group. You know so much. I love some of your recipes too. I simply appreciate getting your emails and I know that I am free to respond.

    Thank you for all you do. When next I come to the Netherlands, I would love to meet you.

    • Jolanda Bolt
      Jolanda Bolt says:

      Nenke, this is so awsome! I am so proud of you! Thank you for seeing me as part of your wise mentor group. Next time you’re in the Netherlands, contact me!


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