Creating a life change sometimes seems overwhelming, significant, and hard work. Only the thought of it makes you sigh and wonder if you’ll ever make it that far.
But let me tell you that you’ll do just fine when you take a bit of time. So take a breath, and see if this blog helps you make it easier to make a life change.
Take the long-term route.
So many people set a goal and wanted it yesterday. You and I both know that that isn’t going to work. You will run into trouble sooner than you think by choosing an important goal and then not taking time to create the grown-up habits.
Setting a goal with a short-term focus only creates frustration because you find out pretty quickly that it takes time to change.
By giving yourself the gift of time to take action and allow yourself to make mistakes, you acknowledge that you’re human. Setting goals has a lot to do with becoming conscious of your habits and then slowly changing them towards a life change.
My daughter’s coach once said: “Becoming a champion isn’t so hard, but staying a champion is tough!”
It’s the same with reaching a goal. Starting a habit isn’t so hard, but maintaining a habit is. It means tediously doing over and over what you’re supposed to do to reach your goal.
Define your “Yes But”
When I’d ask you if you want to reach your goal, then you’d probably say: hell yeah! Yes, I want to lose weight. I want to build a successful business. Finishing my Master’s degree is the only thing I want. I want… I want …
So we create a plan while we’re in the honeymoon phase of goal setting. Creating a plan is still fun when wanting a life change. Taking your first action is also still fun because it is new. But soon after that, you hit your first brick wall in the form of a “Yes But.” It is an obstacle you have to move around, or you’ll stay there forever.
When we talked about making a life change and the goals attached, we couldn’t stop talking. But soon after that phase in which we had to take action consistently, the energy started to seep. Suddenly it is all scary.
Not being able to move past your “Yes But” is the only reason why so many people fail at reaching their goals.
- “Of course, I want to improve my health, but my job is so busy that I can’t find the time to work.”
- “Yes, I want to build a successful business, but I don’t know how to build a good sales proposition.”
- “I want to work on lowering my stress, but my marriage is in shambles right now.”
They are excellent reasons not to do anything. But if you keep on hanging on to your “, Yes But,” you will never improve your health, never build a successful business and never be emotionally and mentally balanced.
A “Yes But” will only help you stay the victim of your circumstances. If you do not address it, it will stay there.
When you find the real problem under your “Yes, But,” you’ll be able to create a smooth sail towards your goal.
Making a life change is filled with disadvantages.
Famous soccer player Johan Cruyff has been quoted so often with his expression in his best Amsterdam accent:
“Every disadvantage has its advantage.”
With it, he expresses that when you conquer the disadvantage of leaving your couch to go outside (which is a disadvantage for some), it can result in feeling better. But what we often encounter are feelings of resistance around our actions. I can find the source of that resistance through an akashic record reading. What? Yes. As an akashic record coach, I have helped many people to see that their reluctance to take action originates from something that happened in the past and still triggers them unconsciously. Examples are: not wanting to sit with your back to a room, specific pains in your body that keep recurring, or an inability to be assertive around certain people while it is no problem at all with others.
Focus on sustainability
No matter which goal you are chasing, focus on sustainability. Especially when goals seem hard to reach, you need to be able not to give up on them but recommit whenever things seem hard. What is also important is to do the inner work to make sustainable results possible. Address why it is so hard to reach your goal or maintain your results.
If you struggle to maintain results or follow through on habits, it often has a deep inner meaning. What that means is found in an akashic record reading. Not doing the clearing work on the cause will keep you where you are.
But what is most important is to keep your expectations low. Instead of demanding yourself to be consistent in emailing your clients every week with a great blog may be a problem if you struggle with inspiration what to write them. Only email them when you have something to share or talk about one of your offers when your energy is high. It is okay to be not consistent, as long as you keep coming back to the game because you want what you’re wanting.
Setting and reaching goals is something many people struggle with because so many goals are based on high expectations or what people feel they should do. If you wonder how one of my services can help you, please contact me, and I’ll gladly explain.